Lingam

In Sanskrit, the penis is called the Lingam. This word can also be translated as "rod of light". In Tantrism, this rod of light is honoured with the greatest respect, as it channels creative energy and pleasure.

Although orgasm is by no means the aim of tantric massage, it is not uncommon for it to occur, so great is the pleasure it brings. Massage of the Lingam, the perineum, the testicles and the sacral point offers unequalled relaxation for men, opening them up to intense pleasure.

Biologically speaking, man is the giver. During a sensual massage, he must learn to become the receiver. A completely different side of him comes to the fore: his gentle, receptive side, with no pressure to perform.

Orgasm is not the aim of Lingam massage, although it can be pleasant and a welcome side effect.

The aim is to massage the Lingam externally, including the testicles, the perineum and possibly the sacral point (the prostate), allowing the man to indulge in a form of pleasure to which he may not be accustomed. In this way, both the recipient and the giver relax through the massage.

Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditionally, men are sexually conditioned to act and get results. Lingam massage allows men to experience their softer, more receptive side and to experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.

The person receiving the Lingam massage lies on their back with a pillow under their head so that they can admire their partner (the giver). Her legs should be spread wide apart, her genitals clearly exposed for the massage.

In Tantra, there are many nerve endings that correspond to other parts of the body. It was believed that many ailments could be cured by a good Lingam massage.

The Lingam may or may not soften while this technique is being performed. Don't worry if it doesn't harden again. You will probably find that it will be hard, then soften and then harden again, which is strongly desired in the Tantric experience, it is like surfing a wave, taking off above it and then diving in. Firmness and softness are the two ends of the pleasure spectrum.

It's important to remember that the goal is not orgasm itself. Men can learn the art of mastering and controlling ejaculation by approaching it and then slowing down on stimulation. Deep breathing is the key here and will calm the strong urge to ejaculate. Ultimately, mastering ejaculation will allow you to make love for as long as you want and you'll be able to reach multiple orgasm without losing a drop of semen.

Orgasm and ejaculation are two different reactions that you can learn to separate. The result is a very wide sex life.

When you come here you are guaranteed a gentle massage of your Lingam.